Domestic Violence Services

Are you experiencing domestic violence?  Do you feel unsafe in your relationship?  Remedies Renewing Lives is here to help!

No one deserves to be abused.  We are here for you.

Remedies Domestic Violence Staff
are available 24-hours per day at:

Help is also available via the:

Illinois Domestic Violence Helpline:

National Domestic Violence Hotline:

Remedies Renewing Lives welcomes survivors of domestic violence, regardless of age, income, gender, marital status, sexual orientation, sexual identity, race, sex, ethnicity, color, citizenship status, national origin, country of origin, limited English proficiency, spoken language, education, disability, or religion.

We are committed to protecting the privacy of survivors, and we strictly adhere to all applicable federal and state laws that protect such confidentiality.

All services for survivors of domestic violence or their children are free and confidential.

Remedies’ shelter and office locations are accessible to people with disabilites.

Remedies Renewing Lives staff strive to make services as inclusive as possible.  If you need a reasonable accommodation in order to access services, please discuss your needs with staff. 

“Thank you to all of the staff at the shelter. I am here today because you listened to me. You are just like family and I will always be grateful for the gift you gave me– my freedom.”
-Shelter Resident

Description of Domestic Violence Services

All domestic violence services are optional, free, and confidential.


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24-hour Hotline:

815-962-6102

Remedies Renewing Lives provides access to safety, support, and resources 24 hours a day, 365 days a year via the hotline.  Trained advocates provide one-on-one support, crisis intervention, advocacy, assistance with safety planning, and information about options, legal rights, and local resources.

A person does not need to be in immediate danger or crisis to call.  Advocates can answer questions and provide support and assistance to survivors, as well as to concerned friends,  family members, and service providers.

Advocates will not require survivors take any specific actions, including filing for divorce or obtaining an order of protection.

Bilingual support can be accessed through the Language Line or when available, Remedies’ bilingual staff.


Emergency Shelter

Emergency shelter is provided for survivors of intimate partner violence who need temporary shelter to be safe.  Although not required, individual advocacy, support groups, referrals, and other supportive services are offered and encouraged for adults and children who reside in shelter.   Staff supports the autonomy of each survivor and encourages survivors to make choices that feel best for them in their situation.

Meals are provided in shelter, as well as laundry facilities, many personal care items, and other donations and supplies as available. 

If a survivor is hesitant to flee to shelter because of concern for a pet that would be left behind, Remedies staff will attempt to assist that individual with finding a local animal clinic or facility to temporarily board the pet.

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**Note:  Many precautions and safety measures are being taken in response to COVID-19 to protect the health and safety of shelter residents and staff.  This includes additional measures for social distancing, safer meal procedures, reduced shelter capacity, and additional cleaning procedures.  These procedures continue to be evaluated and will change as needed, based on recommendations from the CDC, Illinois Department of Public Health, and the Winnebago County Health Department, as well as any requirements that must be implemented in accordance with state or local legal orders.


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Legal Advocacy

Trained legal advocates can assist survivors in Winnebago and Boone County with completing the paperwork necessary to obtain Orders of Protection and assist survivors as they navigate the legal system.

Legal Advocates can explain the court process, assist with completing the Order of Protection forms, accompany survivors to court for the Order of Protection hearings, assist with extensive safety planning, provide referrals, and assist survivors with accessing other legal options.  Legal Advocates can also assist survivors via phone, to navigate the 17th Judicial Circuit Court’s remote order of protection option, should the survivor choose that option.

For legal advocacy assistance in Winnebago County, contact Remedies Renewing Lives staff at the Domestic Violence Assistance Center (located within the Winnebago County Courthouse) at 815-516-2440.

For assistance in Boone County, contact Remedies Renewing Lives staff at our Boone County office at 815-544-1866.


Domestic Violence Counseling

Advocacy-based domestic violence counseling is available to all survivors of intimate partner violence, whether they choose to utilize shelter or not.  Therapeutic counseling is also available for all survivors.  These services are provided by appointment.

Domestic Violence Advocates and Counselors take a survivor-centered, empowerment-based approach.  Staff will not tell survivors that they have to leave their relationship, get an order of protection, or file for divorce.  We believe that each survivor knows their situation best including their safety risks.  We understand that attempting to leave or distance oneself from an abusive partner takes a lot of planning and support, and that leaving can greatly increase the risk of danger for survivors.

Counselors can help survivors process emotions and provide support in their healing process.

Advocates provide emotional support, domestic violence education, assistance with safety planning, and advocacy.

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Support/Educational Groups

A variety of support groups and domestic violence educational groups are offered, at multiple locations.

Services for Children and Teens

Age-appropriate services are provided on both a one-on-one and group basis for children and teens.  Services are available for children and adolescents/teens who have witnessed domestic violence with a parent or guardian, as well as survivors of teen dating violence.

Transitional Housing

Remedies Renewing Lives operates multiple units of transitional housing.  Survivors are able to reside in a transitional housing unit for up to two years and are offered domestic violence advocacy services during that time.  Although space is limited, interested survivors are encouraged to contact Remedies Renewing Lives and connect with Transitional Housing Advocacy staff to obtain more information about the program to help determine if this would be a good option for them.


Public Education & Training

Remedies Renewing Lives provides public education and training in the community, including for schools, colleges, businesses, organizations, health care providers, faith communities, neighborhood organizations, and other community groups and professionals.  Topics may include: dynamics of domestic violence, safety planning, warning signs of abusive relationships, screening for domestic violence, how to respond to disclosure of domestic violence, Remedies Renewing Lives services, how individuals and the community can help, and other related topics.

Remedies Renewing Lives is an approved training site, as designated by the Illinois Certified Domestic Violence Professionals, Inc. Board (ICDVP), to provide the Illinois 40-Hour Domestic Violence Training.

Remedies Renewing Lives is an approved training site by the Illinois Department of Financial and Professional Regulation (IDFPR) to provide the 1-hour domestic violence continuing education training that is now required for stylists, barbers, cosmetologists, estheticians, hair braiders, and nail technicians.

To inquire about any of the above services, call 815-962-6102.

 Do you need help?

We are here to answer your call 24 hours a day.

Have I Been or Am I Being Abused?

 

Emotional Abuse

  • Ignored your feelings
  • Ridiculed or insulted your gender as a whole
  • Made comments about your gender being good for only one thing
  • Ridiculed or insulted your valued beliefs (i.e. religion, education)
  • Withheld approval, appreciation or affection as punishment
  • Continually criticized you, called you names, shouted at you, etc.
  • Insulted or drove away family or friends
  • Humiliated you in private or public, refused to socialize with you
  • Kept you from working, controlled all the money, made all decisions
  • Refused to work or contribute to the family
  • Taken car keys or money from you
  • Threatened to leave or told you to leave, more than once
  • Threatened to hurt you or your family – Threatened to hurt him/herself
  • Punished or deprived your children when he was angry at you
  • Threatened to kidnap your children if you leave
  • Abused household pets to hurt you
  • Told you about affairs/outside relationships to hurt you
  • Manipulated you with lies and contradictions
  • Told you about drug/alcohol use as a means to hurt you

Physical Abuse

  • Pushed, shoved, slapped or grabbed at you
  • Prevented you from leaving, interfered with your personal liberty
  • Kicked, pinched, beaten or bit you
  • Tied you up/locked you up
  • Locked you out of the house/forced you to remain outside
  • Abandoned you while out
  • Refused to help you when you were sick, injured or pregnant
  • Subjected you to reckless driving (with or without substance abuse)
  • Vehicular endangerment while you are driving or kept you from driving
  • Sexually assaulted you
  • Threatened to harm or kill you
  • Threatened to or did hurt you with or without a weapon

Sexual Abuse

  • Treated women or men as sex objects—“That’s all they’re good for” attitude
  • Been jealously angry, accusing you of being willing to have sex with anyone
  • Controlling how you dress; to be more or less “sexy”
  • Minimized or ignored your feelings towards sex – criticized you sexually
  • Insisted on unwanted and uncomfortable touching
  • Withheld sex and affection as a form of punishment
  • Calls you sexual names: whore, slut, etc.
  • Forced you to strip when you did not want to
  • Showed sexual interest in other men/women in public
  • Had sex with other people after agreeing to a monogamous relationship
  • Forced you to have sex with him/her or another person
  • Forced you to watch others having sex
  • Forced you to participated in unwanted sexual acts: oral sex, etc.
  • Forced you to participate in sexual activities when you were sick
  • Forced you to participate in sexual activities for the purpose of hurting you
  • Committed sadistic sexual acts
  • Used sex as a form of controlling you

Results of Responses to Abuse

Which of the following statements best describe the way you feel?

  • I am often in doubt of my judgment or wonder if I am crazy
  • I am often afraid of my partner’s reaction
  • I express my opinion less freely or frequently than I would like
  • I am afraid of other people
  • I see people/friends/family less frequently than I would like
  • I spend a lot of time watching for my partner’s moods before bringing up certain subjects, etc.
  • I worry about, or ask permission to spend money, take classes or socialize with friends/family
  • I have lost all or some confidence in my abilities
  • I feel trapped, powerless, hopeless
  • I feel that I have changed in a negative way since becoming involved in this relationship
  • I feel that my partner has changed in a negative way
  • I feel that my interests and needs do not matter in the relationship
 

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