Dating Violence Checklist

Did the abusive person grow up in a violent family?
Violence is a learned behavior that the abuser perceives as normal.
Does the abusive person tend to use force or violence to solve problems?
Overreacting to minor problems, destructive behavior and a quick temper are indicators of possible abuse.
Does the person have a poor self image?
Sometimes low self-esteem is masked by a “tough guy” image.
Does the person have rigid gender roles?
Stereotyping women makes it easier to believe the need for a male control and vice versa.
Does the person exhibit frequent mood swings?
Unpredictable behavior is a way of controlling a situation and person.
Is the person jealous of other relationships?
This includes friends and family. Jealousy is not a sign of flattery but one of control.
When the person is angry do you feel afraid?
Have you changed your life so you will not make your partner angry?
Are you treated toughly by your partner?
Use of physical force to make you do what you may not wish to do is a power and control issue.
Do you feel threatened by your partner?
Intimidation can come in the form of both verbal and nonverbal behaviors.

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Domestic Violence Overview ICADV Cycle of Violence Dating Violence Checklist Effects on Children Characteristics of an Abuser Have I Been Abused? Varieties of Abuse Why She Stays Danger Red Flags to Consider Credentials & Fees	Did the abusive person grow up in a violent family? Violence is a learned behavior that the abuser perceives as normal. Does the abusive person tend to use force or violence to solve problems? Overreacting to minor problems, destructive behavior and a quick temper are indicators of possible abuse. Does the person have a poor self image? Sometimes low self-esteem is masked by a “tough guy” image. Does the person have rigid gender roles? Stereotyping women makes it easier to believe the need for a male control and vice versa. Does the person exhibit frequent mood swings? Unpredictable behavior is a way of controlling a situation and person. Is the person jealous of other relationships? This includes friends and family. Jealousy is not a sign of flattery but one of control. When the person is angry do you feel afraid? Have you changed your life so you will not make your partner angry? Are you treated toughly by your partner? Use of physical force to make you do what you may not wish to do is a power and control issue. Do you feel threatened by your partner? Intimidation can come in the form of both verbal and nonverbal behaviors.